Giving is good. I also think you have the knowledge and the ability to pull back when things are getting out of hand (like in this situation).

You don't have to prove you're a good mom/grandmom/person to anyone, if you know you are now, well then thats all that matters. I assume you have apologized (or tried) to your daughter. That's all you can do...you can't control how other people respond.

((((((((((Tomi))))))))))