I care for you so say this with love......

She is eighteen so why should it affect you if she is late for work or not ?

The rest I can understand I too would feel for my child if they lost a good friend as its very very upsetting.

I look on it that at that age they make some choices themselves and learn through the mistakes they make.

Maybe I read it wrong ?

Hugs hugs and more hugs to you and all your family .