Tom

You are doing a terrific job. I see a lot of strength in you by having the confidence to post what you did. It's wonderful that you are able to admit that you haven't behaved perfectly (btw~ none of us do) and take responsibility for mistakes.

I think that the separation could be very helpful for you and your wife. I would encourage you to continue working upon yourself. As you continue to make progress, your wife will certainly notice the differences. Hopefully, she will go into therapy soon to work through resentment and other repressed emotions. As you both progress individually, marital counseling will then begin to help.

I really hope that you are both able to work through the issues soon, and begin to grow as a couple again soon. Try to be patient. Remain faithful. Try not to become loving too soon with your wife ~ take it slowly. Very best wishes to you!

Shez