Hi Bren!!

My best friend is a gay man. He has faced many challenges after coming out. To me, having to deal with what he has, I would have fallen apart. Not him though. He tells me that he is stronger then that to give in to the ignorance of others and the judgments they place on him. He is one of the most well adjusted people I know. He surrounds himself with a good support system and I think that is most important.

I understand your anxiety about the landlord situation as well. I have no idea where I would did my cancelled checks out of either. LOL. I would suggest that you call your bank. They keep all the copies of the checks and will provide them to you upon request. So take a deep breathe and relax on that.

Now, your family. I understand your hurt feelings about that but added to your hurt is the fact that your child was affected by their decision not to attend or even recognize this very important event so yur now hurting for your child as well. I agree with Parker. There comes a time when you have to seperate yourself from your family. Realize that they are who they are and move on. Although, I realize that that is alot easier said then done because your always holding on to the hope that they will change their behavior and act "normal". It's hard to let go of that hope because your wanting so badley for them to just act like a family.

I would suggest some couselling. I always find it refreshing to get an outside opinion for my issues because when your in the thick of it, its hard to think clearly. To have an opinion from an outside, unbiased source lets you gain perspective and helps you deal with issues in a more rationale manner. For me anyway. I love my T. She understands me. My issues and my fears. So, maybe this is something you may want to look into.

I wish you the best and please keep posting when needed. Take care.