bipolo had some good points too, set up some boundaries. Let him know that one those nights he comes to your house that the time after the kids are asleep is adult time. Internet time can be the other days of the week. Perhaps your part of the compromise can be that you're not going to make every adult time a happy ending and be satisfied with just spending time together.

I believe someone already mentioned he might be avoiding it because the meds make it difficult for him so he wants to avoid the situation entirely. So turn down the pressure. You said that the physcial contact is your addiction, could you perhaps be seeking that because you do not recognize other forms of affection as love? By that I mean does is the physcial part the only way that you can feel loved?[/quote]

When i say i need the physical part i don't mean the sex it's more of just being and held and hugged and such. I'm gonna try to talk to him about us compromising and spending one night a week just us no computer but we'll see. We're suppossed to hang out this weekend and I'm gonna try my hardest to not be clingy and see what happens.

Only other problem is I don't know if I will be able to not get upset on sunday because once again we have plans for something that i really want to do. And whenever we have plans i get super stressed and i get angry and snap at him at times, and the boys too.
Just wish me luck, and any comments or help would be great