Your mom almost sounds like mine. You know I tried all my life to please my mom and could never do it. She tried to control everything but my brothers stood up to her. I on the other hand let her walk all over me. You know what? She passed on a very miserable person but I was right by her side. It is different for everyone in these cases but you have to do what feels right for you. I do agree with the previous post if she gives you an ultimatum...don't fall for that one. You will be in my thoughts. ((((U)))))