well it sure seems a mess. I would not give up my child for him or anyone. He helped make the baby and he should own up to his responsibility. I would not care what his wife thought. He should have thought about this before he had an affair. And with him saying the timing has to be right. Most married men say that stuff. Good luck to you. Please though don't abort. Think of the child and couples that can't have children would love to adopt! Good luck hon