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Originally Posted by dotbar
I think that would be a good start. There must be some interests you have, or things you've always toyed around with doing but have never done...now would seem also be a good time to think about starting one of those things. For example, I always wanted to dance, so I signed up for ballroom dancing as well as belly dancing. Its awkward for the first 6 times I find, and then you become a 'regular' there.
I would like to offer some kind of suggestion in regard to the problem of you having to always pay for outings but I just can't think of a tactful approach. It would be nice if you could each pay for your own, wouldn't it?
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dotbar,
There is a therapist that I see once a week. He told me to be thinking of some places where I could make friends. There is a crisis center down the road from where I live. I know I could check that out, as I'm sure they would need volunteers. The problem with that or any idea of making new friends is something like going to a "foreign country" for me. There's the fear of the unknown and fear that I'll look foolish or something. That's one thing that's held me back in life.
Yes, I think if we get back as friends, it might be a good idea for each of us to pay for his/her own. Or at least, have a clear understanding of what to expect. But that's the problem. There was a clear understanding of that situation. I already
knew she didn't have any money. If I had dealt with my conflicting feelings, then it probably wouldn't of happened.
I've only been a member her for just a few days and I'm really glad I joined. Everyone here has proven to be very friendly and supportive. Thank you!
Dwayne61