Most of you know that I've been keeping my brother (who is 22 or 23? geez i forget). Anyways.... Latley ive been going through a hard time. My brother doesnt have a job. sleeps all day and stays up at night. He trashes the house and refuses to clean up which is his one daily chore. He yells at me allot and I've been to weak emotionally to help him or enforce the rules. I want to send him to visit my parents for a week. The problem? I don't want to hurt his feeling. He has been trying and looking for a job, so i don't want to discourage him. The other drawback is that he may be with my parents during fathers day. I don't want to trigger the past abuse. I feel like im being so selfish by sending him away for a week. I'm so tired and I don't get the sleep i need as sometimes he wakes me up b/c he is awake. Again, emotionally im too weak to set any kind of rules. I HATE THIS. suggestions, encouragement, comments, plz