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Originally Posted by Denisej
My boyfriend of 10 years, and I have hit bottom in our relationship. There's been much verbal abuse in the past. I thought I could take it, but it finally got to me and it's made me cold toward him. Eventually I totally lost the desire for sex. I figure if I don't feel close to him then he can't hurt me. Its my way of protecting myself. He seems to think that it's my way of punishing him. I'm just not wanting sex, at all. I feel I need some time. Am I wrong to ask for a week or two off.
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I have been in a similar situation as you describe. It came down to asking myself what the driving force behind me me wanting this space? Is it the verbal abuse? Is it something I want to live with the rest of my life? Is the person I am living with going to change?
It may be time to totally reevaluate your relationship. Relationships should be joyous, loving and never involve verbal abuse....taking off from sex is a good idea in my opinion and perhaps take the time to think about yourself and what you really want and deserve in your life. Reba