IMO I would completely avoid her at all costs. I really can't tell you if she has some kind of a mental disorder. There is a possibility that she could be a drug addict. My honest opinion is that she uses men. She gets what she wants then turns around and leaves them. You also need to think about your kids. I would never have my kids around that type of person. If someone would have ever screamed or yelled at me because I had to go pick my kids up from school that would have ended it right there. Besides the fact that you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. I also think that your therapist is trying to get you to open up about the pain of your marriage first. They always say that you need to heal from the pain from an ended relationship before you can move on to the next relationship. There is a lot of single people out there why would you want to settle for her? All she would do is hurt you in the long run, and it would create so much conflict with your kids. You need to focus on your kids and you, not her. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings, but she does not love you, or care for you. Start dating other women who can treat you the way you need to be treated.