I just want to say that I think you need to closely listen to the insiders. I went through this one time when my brother was coming to town and I invited him to stay and it was before I knew I was split and things went totally ballistic inside my mind and I flipped out and finally decided I had to not allow him to come to my home. I had two small daughters and I just could not take a chance with their safety.

This is just my experience but when I let it go and politely rescinded the plan it all got quiet inside and I calmed down a whole lot. I was terrified and he was not even on of the worst abusers.

Honestly, I wish I had listened to my insides more often in my life. It took me such a long time to trust them, protect them and listen closely to them. Now I do, they deserve that from me.

This is how I feel about what you brought up. I just want you and your insiders to be safe. I still have some people in my past that I just can not and will not have meetings with them. I am willing to forgive, I will not put any vulnerable parts of me in danger again. I personally put too many of us in harms way too many times. My host who had less memory and less bad feelings was eager to forgive and restore and sometimes did not act protectively enough for our safety as a whole system of alts.

Here's hoping for what is best for all of you!!!!

Leslie and Pixies