Quote:
Originally Posted by Monty_girl
I know this is a hard to imagine subject for most everyone. But some of ours want the abuse back and still want the attention of the abuser. Is that normal? To want to be abused? They even want to find the abuser and go be with them. Like they did something wrong because they aren't with them.
Emily
|
emily, i do not have alters but i can relate very strongly to wanting the abusers back. because the reason we kept quiet and let it keep happening if because we were children and needed some of that attention, and sometimes that attention was positive, and even when it wasnt positive then any attention was better than being ignored.
i think what you are feeling is very normal, although i am sad you are struggling with it also
. you did not do anything wrong to make your abuser not be with you now. it is a good thing he/she is no longer hurting you, but i understand there is a loss of attention, and we still crave that. are there other ppl in your life now who give you safe and positive attention that you can turn to instead?