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Old Jul 14, 2009, 07:45 PM
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Hi All,

An interesting article on Yahoo News today.

It strongly reaffirms and vindicates my opinions on NOT dating/marrying men well beyond one's own age.

According to the article below (see the part in bold underline), it appears marrying a man that is much older than yourself is not a good idea (unless you are looking to increase your chances of getting divorced, lol).

Peppermint Patty

In love? It's not enough to keep a marriage, study finds

SYDNEY (Reuters Life!) (July 14, 2009)

Living happily ever after needn't only be for fairy tales. Australian researchers have identified what it takes to keep a couple together, and it's a lot more than just being in love.

A couple's age, previous relationships and even whether they smoke or not are factors that influence whether their marriage is going to last, according to a study by researchers from the Australian National University.

The study, entitled "What's Love Got to Do With It," tracked nearly 2,500 couples -- married or living together -- from 2001 to 2007 to identify factors associated with those who remained together compared with those who divorced or separated.

It found that a husband who is nine or more years older than his wife is twice as likely to get divorced, as are husbands who get married before they turn 25.

Children also influence the longevity of a marriage or relationship, with one-fifth of couples who have kids before marriage -- either from a previous relationship or in the same relationship -- having separated compared to just nine percent of couples without children born before marriage.

Women who want children much more than their partners are also more likely to get a divorce.

A couple's parents also have a role to play in their own relationship, with the study showing some 16 percent of men and women whose parents ever separated or divorced experienced marital separation themselves compared to 10 percent for those whose parents did not separate.

Also, partners who are on their second or third marriage are 90 percent more likely to separate than spouses who are both in their first marriage.

Not surprisingly, money also plays a role, with up to 16 percent of respondents who indicated they were poor or where the husband -- not the wife -- was unemployed saying they had separated, compared with only nine percent of couples with healthy finances.

And couples where one partner, and not the other, smokes are also more likely to have a relationship that ends in failure.

Factors found to not significantly affect separation risk included the number and age of children born to a married couple, the wife's employment status and the number of years the couple had been employed.

The study was jointly written by Dr Rebecca Kippen and Professor Bruce Chapman from The Australian National University, and Dr Peng Yu from the Department of Families, Housing, Community Services and Indigenous Affairs.

Internet Link to News Article:

http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20090714/...ife/us_couples

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Hey some of what her article is kinda true at least in my own life. My ex husband is 12 years older than me. And I had one child before we were married and WE had 1 while we were married.... He smoked I don't. But the reason for our divorce really hinged on his drinking problem, the fighting that revolved around it got scary last summer so I kicked him out and he also lost two jobs before that while we were married.

But I wouldn't neccesarily say it's the age that does bc if he had just quit drinking and gone to aa We would probably still be together.

Now I'm dating a guy a year older than me and it feels nice to have someone on a similar page in life.

But don't knock and older guy when it comes to sex... My ex would get turned on in a minute, and always while he was down on me. No complaints there. Usually he wanted it more than I did.
And I hit on him first!!!
Thanks for this!
Shangrala