(((Silver))) I'm so sorry that you're going through this. When I turned 18 I left and didn't come back for a long time. My relationship with my parents for a long time after that was on my terms. I always lived quite a distance away from them so that impromtu visits were not an option.

Once I had kids our relationship did change, mostly for the better. But living near them was not an option if I was going to keep my sanity. We now live about 4 hours away from them, close enough that if something happens I can be there in a snap, but far enough away that it isn't easily done on a Sunday drive.

Like any other relationship, the one you have with your parents will evolve. Hopefully for the better.