You might want to hang out with that possibility a bit longer before deciding one way or the other. Sometimes I think I succeeded in not bonding fully with mine.

You describe a fair amount of crazymaking stuff going on in your family that you'd quite likely be better off at a safe distance from, at least until you gain some perspective on it.
If you hang around with me I'm likely to pass you a paradox at any time. Ready? Here, catch! Not knowing is one of the most powerful places you can be, provided you're willing to be there.

Somehow I get the impression that you're big on wanting to fix things -- partly so they'll be better, of course, but also to keep learning how much difference you're able to make. Sometimes the things that make the most difference in the long run, though, are deceptively small and simple and look like they'd be hardly worth doing. You don't find out differently until some time, maybe quite some time, after you've done them. It's easier to spot them when you don't know what they're going to look like and you aren't all busy worrying that you're supposed to know.