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Elysium · Jul 15, 2009, 01:10 PM

KJ0425 ~

Hi and welcome to PC!!

I think it is important for your husband to see someone professionally about his symptoms. Most often, people who are bi-polar have a difficult time managing their symptoms without the help of psychotherapy and medication(s).

Of course, first he has to admit that he is having issues and he has to want to change his behaviors. If he's not willing to do that then it becomes more of what you are comfortable living with.

Should he not be willing to get the appropriate help, you need to decide if you are comfortable keeping you and your daughter in this situation. Bi-polar disorder does not get better on its own, and it's not just going to go away. He may go through a period where everything seems okay, but the pendulum always swings back the other way. The risks are that one day he will turn physically violent against you and your daughter. It sounds like he is already being emotionally abusive and possibly verbally, and just because he may be bi-polar doesn't make that okay. There is NOTHING okay about any type of abuse. He still needs to be accountable for his actions.

My suggestion....see if you can get him to acknowledge the issues and then talk with him about getting some treatment. If he refuses, you may have to put your foot down with an ultimatum. It would also be a good idea for you to find your own support systems as well. This will be important for you in your coping with his illness.

I don't see the situation magically improving on its own without help, so I really hope he is willing to work on it.

Best wishes for you and your family. Keep us posted on how you're doing if you like. We'll be here for you should you need to talk and you can always PM me.