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Originally Posted by Dwayne61
Marjan,
You said, “Try to find peace and happiness inside yourself, in your mind rather than outside.” I realize it’s a mistake to try and find happiness in another person. But how do I find it within myself, where it really counts? Sometimes I just feel so empty inside. Then that leads to depression… Like right now I feel empty.
Dwayne61
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well...finding peace and happiness within oneself needs constant practise and wish....It can take you years to get to that point but the good news is that it's duable
I am like you too...being so obsess with my thoughts and give them so much important while they are not important at all....The thing that is helping me now is lots of meditation and exercise....It helps big time...Also, reading inspiring or self help books will help too....however, you have to have wish to find the happiness within yourself and be consistant in your practise and have faith on it then by time you will be more relaxed and happy....
If you develop inner peace, then no matter what is the outside circumstances you will be happy....We are usually looking for happiness from outside such as finding a partner, changing a job or home or location or whatever and these are just giving us short term happiness, then we are misrable again.....ha...that sounds familier
If one develops compasion towards all beings and try to understand that all beings want to be happy and everybody has it's own problems and desires, then you won't feel sad or angry once somebody did something to you...you will forgive that person and accept the human condition and move on with your life....rather than being so clingy and wanting wanting something or somebody.....
In your friend's case, if you are a true friend and you feel compasion for her, then you should set her free and not bother her....right now, she wants to be away from you, she has lots of issues of her own, feel compasion for her and let her to deal with her life the way that she wants....she doesn't want to be with you now, so what? that's okay...you can go with somebody else and each time that you think about her just wish her happiness and try to think about something else....
You got to find the way by yourself....but as I told you before, meditation and exercise and reading are helping me a lot...you can join a meditation group in your neighbourhood, I'm sure there are plenty of them....search it on the internet....
good luck
Marjan