kelly, here is my opinion, please take what you'd like and leave the rest.

i went through something similar as you right now so i know the confusion you feel. point is, you and he both need to know what you want in the relationship or lack thereof in order to feel comfortable and confident in what you are doing. I went through a long distance relationship my last 2 years of college....bad idea. I love him dearly, he was my first boyfriend, friend for about 3 years before that and we both got tired of seeing each other only once a month and talking on the phone a few times a week. College you will see quickly, is meant to be a time to explore everything about yourself and what you want, can do, what is out there in the world! Being tied down to a relationship that doesn't even seem real because the other person is hardly there is a way to inhibit that experience, and again as much as I love the man I was with, I will never do long distance again because of how painful it can be to long for someone more often than enjoying their presence.

That being said, it is really difficult to decifer between love and attachment. I know that I became attached to my ex after we broke up and lived across the street from each other. we hung out all the time just to watch movies, go to the beach, we'd fall asleep with each other nothing having to do with sex. We got back together because eventhough we were "not together" we never really let go of the relationship. However, we are now apart again because the same issues we fought about before(this time living so close) were surfacing and the time we had apart was not at all spent on self-improvement. Time to reevaluate is cruicial after a break up or any life change for that matter. The point is it's great to have someone to hold and to lavish with your love and affection, but if it is not serving you in a positive way, is it really love or happiness or is it being stuck in a routine? I had the same problem when I broke up with the same guy a couple months ago. I can still see a future between us...later on...I can see things being great and working out....in the future. The future is not something we can control at this exact moment and we spend so much time wishing and hoping to shape the future that sometimes we forget to think about, what is good for ME, RIGHT NOW? What do I need in my life right now? If what you need now is time away from him, go for it. If things are meant to work out in the future, they will. they always do. but you will be worse off if you don't take care of yourself right now because then the present you might diminish all feelings for the future him. Just like the flight attendents say "if you are traveling with a child or someone who acts like one, make sure to apply your oxygen mask before helping them". give yourself some time to enjoy yourself and most of all enjoy college with the freedom that college is there to provide!! sorry if this sounds at all extreme, i just hope there is some bit of info that might help you along in your journey. good luck!!!