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Originally Posted by marjan
In your friend's case, if you are a true friend and you feel compasion for her, then you should set her free and not bother her....right now, she wants to be away from you, she has lots of issues of her own, feel compasion for her and let her to deal with her life the way that she wants....she doesn't want to be with you now, so what? that's okay...you can go with somebody else and each time that you think about her just wish her happiness and try to think about something else....
You got to find the way by yourself....but as I told you before, meditation and exercise and reading are helping me a lot...you can join a meditation group in your neighbourhood, I'm sure there are plenty of them....search it on the internet....
good luck
Marjan
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Marjan,
Thank you again for your support. What are some of the books you have read?
I went to a movie this afternoon with my niece. A large part of the time, my mind was nagging at me about what to do concerning my friend. I even thought I saw her at the movie, but it wasn’t her.
We had met at a program for group and individual counseling. Wednesdays are when she usually goes, so I thought I’d see her today. But she wasn’t there. Off and on all day I’ve been mentally going down the list of different things to do about this. Send her the letter, try calling her again, wait and see her at group sometime… Next month is her birthday. I could send her a card and the letter then. Or not even try to contact her at all.
The only real decision I’ve come up with is that I need to decide on
something to do and just do it. Stop questioning myself. It’s driving me nuts.
The thing is, if she and I resolved our differences and became good friends again, I still have issues that are liable to interfere with the relationship again. Plus, she has issues that I have a hard time accepting.
Dwayne