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Originally Posted by Peppermint_Patty
Hi Shangrala,
I am sure one could find studies where a poll was conducted to determine people's preferences when it comes to the age of their partner, but I think looking at how long these relationships last is really the most important statistic to be looking at here.
This is why this particular study is so interesting, because it shows that some choices do indeed have a higher risk of failure.
For example 2nd and 3rd marriages generally have a poor track record of success. There are always exceptions of course... but statistically speaking MOST 2nd and 3rd marriages usually end in divorce.
And personally speaking... I think if I was contemplating a second, third, fourth or fifth trip down the aisle... I think I would rather try my luck at a Las Vegas Roulette or Black Jack table, as think my odds for success would be much better there, lol. 
Peppermint Patty |
Hi PPatty~
Isn't it unfortunate how some view marriage seemingly as more of a legal dating contract than devoted vows that have soulful value?
For me, marriage is sacred. However, I do not believe that one should sacrafice one's soul for the sake of carrying that marriage to the old misconception of the "for better or worse". However, that does not mean to bail out at the first sign of trouble, either.
I simply cannot accept the fact that a person must relinguish his/her sense of self for the sake of another who is not willing to carry their responsibility in the marriage. In that case, those vows have lost the value along with the partner who will not honor them.
And yes, imo, it takes an incredibly unique bonding between two persons involving a vast age difference, (regardless of which gender is senior/junior), to carry the extra weight of what that kind of relationship WILL entail in order to survive it....A weight that Krisitan and I WILL endure, regardless.
I think too, though, that much of that extra weight is applied because of how society views it. It is the opinions of others who compound the issues...adding a great unnecessary burden to the exisiting issues that that couple must already deal with.
So, with that, it isn't up to just the chemistry and abilities of said couple, but also, their success depends somewhat on how much pressure they can endure from those limitations/obstacles dumped on them by the majority.
Shangrala
