Wow it is so wonderful to be able to have support and answers from ya'll! I am staying away at my dads..I figure when he comes down from this I will give him an ultimatum...but if he has another affair I don't think I could take it anymore. I love him and I want him to get help. So I am going to give him space..he is still at the house I figured if I left he would stay and that might be better then if I was there he would leave and go who knows where. He has the bank account in his name but I can access it to see what he is spending but I have no control. last time we lost our place to live but and he had a place to go. His mother which is Bi polar untreated told us we were dead to her and kicked us out for the dog pooping in the house. thats when we moved to the house we are in now. I have no car..our credit is shot cause when he got married he said that we should stop paying our credit card bills. He admits that his mother has a problem..then right beofore his episode we had a talk and he said Idk maybe I have the crazy gene. So I thin he knows I am right..but he pushes me away saying such hurtfuls things..he hasnt called in 3 days to see how our daughter is.