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Old Jul 16, 2009, 01:39 AM
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When I was your age I got scared because I didn't have a boyfriend and didn't have any prospects. I was very lonely and had low self esteem at that time in my life. When I was twenty-four years old I finally met somebody and within a month of meeting he proposed and I wasn't in love with him but I was so scared of being alone that I accepted and we married quickly. Divorce followed a few years later.

I don't really feel qualified to give advice but I will give my perspective. I regret feeling that I "needed" a boyfriend to be okay. In retrospect what I really needed was to develop friendships of both sexes. When I was in my early thirties I met a man that I was in love with for nearly a decade before he died. Now I am alone again but I now have the self awareness that being alone is okay. Perhaps I will meet somebody special some day and maybe not.

Perhaps you could do some group dates with some friends where people are not paired up but just want to enjoy each others' company.
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