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Originally Posted by marjan
I feel like I sabotage any relationship I get into subconsiosly then I feel sad and pitty once he doesn't want to be with me anymore.....
I know I'm putting so much thought into it and I hate to admit that, but I want to learn at least....Also, I'm getting crazy of thinking obsessevely about it....I don't feel sad or depressed, but I can't stop the thoughts....
Now that I think back, I was complaining and questioning everything from up front so quickly without knowing him at the very begining of the relationship and that's what everything goes wrong....
It's sad when you feel for somebody, but things don't go well 
sorry folks for bugging again....
I'm trying to forget and move forward, but tired of the same cycle starting again....getting so disappointed, although I don't want negetive thoughts coming to me, but it's hard to push them back....
Thanks
Marjan |
marjan,
I certainly don't feel like you're bugging. I think I know exactly how you feel to be obsessed about someone. I think you have an idea about how I am, since you have been so helpful to me recently.
Yes, it's very hard to push those negative thoughts back. I've been working on trying to change my self-talk. Sometimes I think it helps.
A few examples:
I choose what I do. I can choose to worry and I can choose not to worry. For right now, I choose to let any worrisome thoughts go.
I am in control of my own thinking and I think only those thoughts which create and fulfill the best in me.
For right now, I choose to let my mind only dwell on bright, cheerful and enthusiastic thoughts and ideas.
I choose to focus the attention of my mind only on those things that I can do something about. If I cannot affect it or direct it- I accept it.
I choose to think about only good, healthy, positive, constructive and productive thoughts.
I control the thoughts I choose. No thought, at any time, can dwell in my mind without my approval or permission.
I can continue to worry and obsess about this situation with ____ and that’s up to me. But I want and deserve to have peace of mind, so for right now, I choose to let these worrisome thoughts about _____ go.
Dwayne61