yes. im actually in your bf's position right now. i had a gf for 2 years & 6 months now. about 2 month ago, we talked the matter that you've talked about with your bf, i told my gf im too depressed to do things, i dont know what to do anymore, she asked why im so quiet lately, we dont even having an intimate / sexual relationship anymore, i dont hang out with my friends anymore, all i do is quiet. we had a fight that day. she's really upset about me not doing anything about it, not even ask her for help, and i think what hurts her even more is because i said that i dont feel like i want anybody around me anymore. she stay quite until i leave her house and keep quite for like a month. everything is ok right now, i guess, but this is an unfinished business cause i think we both pretend to forget about my problem (again), we do better if we dont talk about it. we always fight when we talk about my depressed problem.

now, about your bf, i think i can understand his problem. yes he wanted to get help but he dont know where to go, not even go to doctor, i never go to doctor, family doesn't know, nobody except you, and his bestfriend perhaps? when we depressed, too depressed, sometimes we just feel numb and empty, nothing is matter anymore, thats why i think he looks like he try to push everybody away but in the same time he do wanted some help, he wanted someone, you, the more imprtant thing is im sure that he wanted someone to understand his problems and accept him for the way he is. im sorry that it hurts you, but it does need a big heart to deal with people who's having depressing times. often i feel so guilty for hurting my gf with my depressed problems. so if you think that you are the person for him, hang in there and dont give up on him, you can get through this cause the love is already in there, now you just need to fight for it to keep it. tell him that. thats all i can say. hope this helps even if just a little.