I'm a very open and accepting, non judgmental person. I love people for who they are and have great respect for others who lead challenging lives because I guess I resonate with them... would be a good way to put it.

I've been dating a wonderful guy that is a little bit 'different' than most people. He laughs because one of the first things I said to him was that I was 'different' and he said he was too I also have had that 'different' feeling for most of my life because I have psychic abilities which apparently freak men out. (they've told me) So I thought maybe we'd get along. We have lots of things in common and he is very intellectual. (I kind of like nerdy guys
I've started to notice things/behaviors that I don't understand and I don't know if they are from the bipolar or if they are just the way he is. He kind of reminds me of a 'mad professor' at times. Which I do find endearing and fascinating.

Other times he's like a child that can't take care of himself and gets food all over himself, picks his nose and at his body. Exaggerates about poking a finger or little bumps on his legs etc. things that I wouldn't even acknowledge and I find it curious. He'll yell and jump a round for a bit because of pinching a finger a bit for instance.

but mostly he's a businessman in a high position and very self assured.

he has admitted that he has a 'thing' for younger pretty women and is working on how he 'leers' at them when we're out in public. He said he didn't understand he was doing this until I brought it up ..because he would sometimes be off in another world and not even aware that I was there talking to him. I'd have to get his attention back.

A couple of days ago I had asked him not to do something in an interest group that I run at work. He has been attending because he is interested too.
It involved not making 'out of group' contact with group members because it had caused problems before... and so he did exactly what I had asked him not to with a younger, pretty female, new member that same night.

Now he says he can't understand what I'm upset about and so he doesn't want to see me or talk to me... he needs 'time alone' to understand why I am so mad....in the same breath he talks about how communication is so important to him...

needless to say I'm confused....
I'm probably one of those women who 'care' too much.... which is why I ended up in a few abusive relationships. at least now I'm questioning things and trying to see issues as they really are.

So what do you guys think (sorry my question mark key does not work

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