I was in a simlar situation for fifteen years, he wouldnt make an effort I begged him in the end I left.

He still thinks in the back of his head I will return even though I have re married and had another child. He is just waiting on the sideline.

He cant seem to understand that anything I had for the him is dead. He killed it over a period of years and now is too late to do anything about it.

Hugs to you I wish you well.