Sky, don't let him hit you like that storm. I hope you get a lawyer to make sure you get your money and his retirement part before he strikes. Do you have a court order on this? Has it been served on the company that holds his 401k? Also you may be able to get his income tax checks if he gets refunds. MAYBE you have looked at all of this but? Also if he dies and isn't married you can pull his SS benefits. The old lady across the street told me once she did that used her current husbands and then the exes. That made me lol , makes you wanna have a lot of exes...Just file that info into your brain. He sounds like a royal jackazz.