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Originally Posted by thinker22
Stay safe and let us know how things are going. He has to want to get help and change. If he doesn't and he's dangerous and/or cruel, it's in your best interest to stay away. Don't worry about what he may or may not be doing. (Easier said than done.) I think he'll get curious eventually as to why you're staying away, especially if he swings down. At that point you can make some conditions about coming back.
Sorry I can't tell you anything else. You might want to make an appt with a therapist yourself to talk about all you're dealing with. He or she might have some insights and other ideas about how to best deal with the situation or a person with his history and diagnosis. |
I really appreiciate all your advice and support. I just wanted to give ya'll an update on the situation. My Daughter hadn't been acting herself, and I just wanted to be near my friends..missing My home. So I talked to some close friends and they are going to be here for me 100% when I need to leave and get out. I had a feeling he contacted his ex. the one he had an affair with so I called her and asked her if he had tried contacting her and she told me he had emailed her stating I had been gone for a few days he has a beautiful baby and nice house a great job but he is depressed ans needs someone to talk to. She said she doesn't plan on responding, and she was sorry for what happened before she knew what she was getting into and I didn't ask for any of that. she is happy in a relationship now and doesn't want anything to do with him. So I Text my husband and said I was coming home simply because Oaklyn (our Daughter) wasn't herself.so he text me saying I thought you were moving out. and I said no Im not and he said whatever its over so something needs to be done. So I had some friends bring me home and set up an air mattress in my daughters room. When I got in the house I noticed that he had took down our baby gates rearranged things..and bought a new entertainment center. He was following my brother in law around the house ....(he lives with us) after my friends left I was kissing on the dog and went to bring him in the room with me and he told me "I paid for the dog..he is mine leave him alone. I said "ok" and put the dog down and went to bed. His brother told me that he had came home drunk on tues night. I left before he came home on Friday I applied for some jobs. Friday night I heard him come in at 2 in the morning, Im sure he was drunk. Sat morning (today) he slept till 11 30 I know he wasn't sleeping well cause I had to get some things from the room. I was very calm and nice told him that I had applied for a job and I wasn't sure about the hours but he will probably have to watch the baby. and he said how am I going to do that? I said well obviously when you aren't working. he said well I don't know about that cause we can't live in the same house together and I said ok. but Oaklyn still needs to be watched (still very calm an nice) He walked to the bedroom and slammed the door. I left for the day. I am not going to try and make him talk to me. I am not going to do anything for him, I grew some "balls" as you would say and decieded I don't need to leave my house. I don't think he would harm us his brother lives with us too and he is normal to him. I know that I can't believe anything he says and the issue is with him so I will stay very calm and be conciderate I am not a creul person but I will not let him walk all over me and have the power to crush my spirit. I don't know if he is going to get help I can only wait until he comes down and hope and pray he will get help..if not I will take measures and do whats best for me and my child.