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Originally Posted by jerrymichele
Tishie first let me say that you did the right thing by leaving him. I also have got to tell you that your a strong person to leave a house with all your kids like that. He really did showed his true colors when he couldn't even leave the house for you and the kids.  Shang I do agree with you. Abuse is abuse. I was in a relationship with physical and verbal abuse. Once those scars are there, they never go away. It's like you can't be yourself around that person because any little thing can trigger him off. (or her) A person who is abusive needs help. Until they can get treated for it, and realize what is going on with their anger, then IMO it's useless to believe they will change. Let me also just say that when this relationship ended it took me a very, very long time to realize other men wasn't like that. I was dating other guys and if they just showed a little bit of anger than I would shut down, and I was frightened. The only thing good that came out of this, is that when I see or I'm around an angry man, I know to get away from him quick.   |
Agreed, Michele~
Abuse IS abuse. No matter the form or who from.
Change has to come from first realizing there is a problem, seeking a source to guide to understanding, then applying the changes necessary to resolve the initial cause = Path to Healing + Health & Happiness.
Your experience, and how YOU have resulted from it has proved a perfect case in point that there is good to be found in something bad.
I'm happy for you for that you are able to overcome the negative and obtain the positive from your experience. You are fortunate as that can be quite difficult for many. You are a strong person for enduring and overcoming the devistating negative odds.
I imagine that for sometime to come, the red warning flag will be present for me, as well. But I know that because of the person I am, that that red will eventually fade, allowing me to view through the calm yellow of caution.
Stay strong, Michelle...
Shangrala
