Well, thanks everyone. I am so tired. I don't know about the guardianship either. I am quite torn. I want to give them all up at this point as they are all a bunch of pains. i spoke with boy's and girls town today and they recommended me getting her back right now, as soon as possible because she is a minor and just because she is angry it doesn't mean she gets to go have a vacation somewhere. Her disability looks mild but in testing she is 1 point from official diagnoses of Mentally retarded. She is however much more functional then that. Her hatred toward us is the worst. I just can't deal with that. And then the youngest gives my hubby grief because we don't eat together etc and she mightr as well move out. I am about ready to open the door and tell them all to fly away. I am hurt and angry. Thanks for the replies, it helps to see differing view points. i guess it's time my spouse and I gave it all up and shrunk down to living in a yurt off the grid and simplified everything.