Yes, we all wish for more control PRIOR to any "lashing out" at anyone. The problem is, until we are able to "pay good attention"... it just doesn't happen. </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
And I plan to not just cover everything up with a blithe reminder to all who got hit by me that I should not be held accountable cause I have PTSD.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> If I were able to "plan" this, then certainly I might be very much responsible. Thinking we're covering something with a blanket excuse denotes being inconsiderate and self centered in a negative way, don't you think?

With someone with say, Alzheimer's, who has blasts of rage... does one hold them just as accountable as a true to form "brat" who doesn't give a hang about anyone's feelings? I think there is a big difference there. I wouldn't demand they constantly apologize and take it to heart that they are a bad person for using alzheimer's as an excuse. Do you follow what I mean?

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Somehow there must be a way to balance out being held accountable, and also to be understood in the context of our PTSD.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I agree... what I tried to express is something more towards this, in that, for someone with PTSD to not take it all to heart as being "responsible" like it's something controllable, something we have planned, or irresponsibly allow despite other ppl's feelings. We own too much of the reactions. Is there some way to not take full responsibility without being irresponsible? I think so.