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Originally Posted by SophiaG
I dated a guy who had Aspergers for a while.
During the time I dated him (which wasnt too terribly long) I learned several things:
1) He had been sexually abused
2.) He was suicidal
3.) he claimed to be a sex addict
4.) He completely and utterly disregarded ALL my feelings
5.)He had Aspergers
During the Course of this relationship he:
1.) Overdosed twice
2.) cut himself several times even when I was RIGHT there with him
3.) made fun of my physical disablity (which was why I broke up with him)
4.)Cheated on me
5.) Didnt want me to talk to anyone but him
Another person who I've met recently claims to have Aspergers and they:
1.) are a compulsive liar
2.) disregard my feelings
Needless to say I didnt stick around to find out more.
is this normal behavior for an Aspie? Right now I dont particularly like them much.
And I cant believe I put up with that much from that one guy xD
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First, I wouldn't use the term "Aspies." I don't know if that's a common term used here on this forum, but I'd imagine that would be offensive to some people.
Second, I'm an ABA teacher for individuals with Autism, and have experience working with not only those with Autism but those with other ASDs as well (such as Asperger's), aged 3-22. To be honest, I have never first-handedly worked with anyone who had so many issues going on at once. I'm sure his sexual abuse has affected him in a big (negative) way. Being sexually abused could make anyone cut or be suicidal or overdose on whatever, etc.
I wouldn't necessarily blame his behavior on his disability. Sure, maybe the fact that he has Asperger's makes it more difficult for him to deal with certain issues, but I wouldn't be surprised if an individual without Asperger's exhibited the same behaviors as did your ex.
I'm sorry you were so hurt by him. But anyone can hurt you like that, Asperger's or not. Good luck in your future relationship endeavors!