From the other side of the fence...

Vett, I think it is FANTASTIC that you realize what a self-imposed obstacle guilt can be. I see my boyfriend struggle with it all the time - he feels guilty over things he should NOT feel guilty about... it just compounds his feelings of failure. He feels guilty about things that it would never occur to me to feel guilty about... and it weighs him down, discourages him.

I want to shake him sometimes and say "Stop obsessing about what you did wrong or didn't do right! Just move forward -- start from wherever you are RIGHT NOW". But I guess it's easier said than done.

So here's a virtual grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-shake-you from Philly. Only because you're asking.

...and a big hug, too. I know you're going through a lot, Vett. Hang in there,

Your friend,
LMo

We are ALL going to be a-ok!