[quote=Cthomas;1079985]that you take up too much of someones day? But its "not in a bad way"

And you are supposed to understand. Is there something wrong with me? or should I just be ok with this.

It wasnt said malicously but it struck a cord.

Colleen[/q

Colleen,
A few years ago, I had a friend who "took up too much of my day". Unfortunately though, I didn't tell her to back off ("not in a bad way"), and we are no longer friends. Please allow me tell you what I meant by that comment, so that you can continue your friendship in a healthier manner, before it's too late and she ditches you. Obviously, if it 'struck a cord' you probably already have an idea of what I'm going to say.
First of all, she was always complaining. Either she had a headache, she didn't have enough money, her job sucked, etc. etc. There wasn't a day that went by that everything was cool in her life. At times it seemed as if she actually LOOKED for things to whine about. I, on the other hand, am a really easy going. I don't take anything for granted, I'm generally a happy person; even though I have a terminal illness and live in constant pain. I look for the positive in every moment of every day.
Secondly, this girl was in an unhealthy relationship with a guy who was no good for her. That should not have affected my friendship with her except for the fact that she constantly dragged me into her heartache, always, always with comments like "you don't know what I'm going through" or "it's easy for YOU to tell me to leave him, it's not YOUR life that's going to be lonely". This was all the time with this girl. she would *****,*****,***** yet never do anything to change her life around to a happier one.
Third, there was ALWAYS some sort of chaos going on with her; Her boss cut her hours, her mom was hurt by something she did, her other friends weren't talking to her. It seemed like wherever she went, conflict followed her. Yet, it was SHE who was creating most of the drama in her life! She didn't take advice well, she talked more than she listened, and she always had to be right.
Colleen, what I mean by all this is.... this girl was wearing me out. Everytime I was around her, I would feel mentally and emotionally drained. She was too much negative energy, too needy, expected too much. And yet, due to her selfishness, she didn't see any of this. Does any of this sound familiar to you? If it does, please try to respect the boundaries of a healthy relationship with your friend. Respect her needs and stop being so toxic. I wish you well, for her to make that kind of comment, you're already on your last leg with her, beleive me. Please try to change for the better.