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Originally Posted by Rohag
Of these two, it may be more valuable to focus on your fear of being hated/disliked. People are more apt to "like" you if they perceive - that is, pick up on cues - you are comfortable with yourself.
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How can I become comfortable with myself? Or at least, how can I pretend that I am?
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Have you thought about why this is so?
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I never had any friends, and I have the social skills of a toddler. I expect people to dislike me, and it makes me happy when they don't immediately dislike me.
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What are the ways you actually "take it out on them" (no need to post your response)? Is there any pattern to the ways you react? Do you do the same one or two things each time? Can you imagine more appropriate responses? Can you practice them?
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I become sarcastic and I make fun of them. The right thing to do would be not to.
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The Criticism: Why are people criticizing you?
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They usually try to help me by giving advice on how to do things better. I frequently think they are angry with me.
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Why have you come to feel your family (all? part?) doesn't like you? What are the actual signs you're reading as "dislike?" Could you develop a plan to change your family's perception of you, a realistic plan that wouldn't over-tax your reserves of physical and emotional energy?
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I live with my dad. He doesn't seem happy most of the time, and I feel like I'm the cause of it. My father's side of the family seems to be afraid of me because I act disinterested.
I don't talk to my mother's side of the family very much, they frequently fight each other. Most of the time they yell at each other, sometimes they start hitting each other. The police frequently get involved.
I grew up with my mother and my siblings, and I moved in with my dad when I was around 12. I left my siblings behind and I feel guilty about it.
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I wish you the very best! May PCers with lots more to offer find your posts and respond. 
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Thank you for helping me out.
