Treehouse said:
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I couldn't deal with the abuse stuff in therapy until I STOPPED trying to "grow up".
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That's such an important insight!
Like you, Christina, I get so frustrated with myself for not moving through things faster/better/whatever. It's another way to blame myself and not look at the abuse. It's not deliberate, it's like a fails-safe I have in place to protect myself. I agree with exotic, we deal with these things in our own time. I know I am taking much longer--years longer!--than I thought I would. But I also feel really good about being ble to take things at my own pace. That's never been allowed before.
Take care. You're doing the work even when you're not talking explicitly about the abuse. There are many, many layers to it, and a lot of it is outside stuff like home and work. You're working on the abuse, and when you're ready to talk about it directly, you will. Trust in yourself.
