((((((((Christina86)))))))

dealing woth this stuff is so hard - dealing wiht the stuff around it jmo is the first step - talkinga bout why you canttalk about it also helped me - and as Treehouse said letting the child part (inner child) that T says is stuck in the terror of the moment have a voice is another healing step

T says the adult part of me has to turn up and help the child part - take over and stand up to the abuser - am trying to do this - you are travelling a hard road and it takes as long as it takes.

You are not weak or pathetic you are strong - you survived and you will survive this and be even stronger because of it .

Its ok to hate the abuser - especially if you havnt allowed yourself to hate them before - jmo again but i think somtimes you have to acknowledge the anger and rage from the event to mprocess it and move past the fear into understanding and possible forgiveness.

Please be kind to you my friend - there are a lot of people her who care about you and will stand (or sit) with you to help you get throguh this.

take care P7