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Originally Posted by anxietygirl
I feel so bad as I writing this, but I truly hate my 18 yr old son. He completely consumes my life with his meaningless life. I don't even know who he is anymore. I look at pictures of him when he was younger and remember how happy and fun he was and full of life and now all I see is bitterness,anger,apathy, and dishonesty. He has tried to kill himself 3 times, he went into a psych facility and it didn't help, he took medications but abused them so now he takes nothing and I refuse to take him to get more prescriptions. He will take any pill he can get his hands on in large quantities. He will not work, has quit school, he is abusive to me and everyone in the house, he breaks things, puts holes in the wall, calls me horrible names. He lies and he steals. He is a drug addict. I know he smokes pot, but there has to be something else. He has told me he takes pills. I hate him. I took him to meet his biogical father and he has not changed either, went to jail Monday to await trial for 5 DUI's and possession of xanax and vicodin. He never paid one dime of child support, not one phone call, not one card, and my son thinks he is wonderful. Like father like son I guess. I made a mistake finding him for my son. My son keeps talking about killing himself, he wants to get a gun or take an overdose. I wish he would just get it over with, he won't go to counseling. He is going to jail for about 30 days for possession of marijuana. I had his bond revoked. When he gets out, he is not going to have a place to live anymore, I am changing the locks. How can I hate someone so much that I gave life to? I don't even know him anymore.
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I can identify with you! I have a 42 year old daughter who has not spoken to me for over 1 year because I decided to quit letting her abuse our relationship, and am not letting her take advantage of me any more. She has taken advantage of everyone in her life so that she has not had to work. I practically raised her oldest child because she was first divorced, then too busy to do things for him, and never had money to buy him clothes, school pictures, etc. because she would rather have her naptime and be in everyone else's business. We bought her furniture, clothes, took her in, fed her, and when my husband decided he liked a younger woman at his work place, she turned on me and told him to leave me, thinking she could get him and his paycheck to move in with her and her husband. Now, she won't have anything to do with me because I stood up to her for the first time in my life. You may have a hard way to go also, but I think you need time for yourself. This young man of yours would benefit greatly from the Army, etc. I'm so sorry you are going through this, and I hope someone very strong gets ahold of him to straighten him out. I think just about everyone I know is having some sort of problems and struggles. I will say a prayer for you and hope for the best!!