Hi Stars~

I've replied in your other thread, as well.

I have to say that although I understand what Emotionally Dead is meaning, and certainly is obviously stating from his painful lessons learned, (which I'm so sorry for yours resulting as it has for you, ED), I can't help but to disagree with that as it is in your case.

As I've said in my reply in your other thread, Matt IS a threat to you, and you need to get away from him.
Abuse in ANY form, regardless of the reasons, is not accepted nor should EVER be excused....PERIOD.

His behavior is that of the control freak.
He verbally abuses you without remorse, and doesn't let up until he actually sees the tears. Seems to me that is what his controlling behavior seeks...TO hurt you, and once you provide him that satisfaction, only then does he let up. Until the next time..then the next, and next. Again, it's a matter of how much you will be willing to tolerate until it stops completely.

Sorry. But as I've said in my other reply, Ive lived through those kinds so many times, that I see right through their behavior patterns and know the outcome of it. And the only way this will stop is when you have reached your breaking point. HE will not change it. He has no intentions to.
And it will not matter to him if you lose yourself in the process of trying to help him. YOU are not HIS concern. His behavior states that clearly.

You deserve better, and should NOT allow anything less than kindness.

If your parents are not a resource to rely on for support, then I strongly suggest that you find someone TO obtain support....as soon as you can. There is no reason why you should have to be struggling through this alone.

I hope the best for you. Stay in touch with us. We care.

Shangrala