In April of this year my older sister and I got into a serious argument. We were driving home from visiting my father along with her husband. I asked if I could drive. She said no, that I wasn't familiar with her SUV (I have driven it before on a long trip to the beach). I told her that but she just said no. I was angry. I said "You know, being a know-it-all is a very unattractive quality". Words were exchanged and then she told me the real reason she didn't want me to drive. She said it was because I was on medication. I reminded her that I drive myself to and from work every day on medication and I am fine. The other piece that came up is that she said she doesn't trust me, that a lot has happened in the recent past. I had a suicide attempt in August, 2008. She didn't refer to that directly but I know that is what she was talking about. Then she said she didn't want to talk to me anymore unless it was in my therapist's office. I told her maybe she needed to get her own therapist and we could talk there. Then she said I've always been jealous and resentful of her. I reminded her that I've held the same job for 16 years while she has been fired from at least 9 jobs over the past 10 years. I told her maybe it would be better off for us if we were just estranged.

After talking with my therapist about what happened she suggested that I needed some time to cool down. So I waited until about three weeks ago and contacted my sister via e-mail. She had put a block on my e-mail address and I had to fill out a form to get the message sent. I said in the message that I had been thinking about her and told her that my therapist was willing to facilitate the process of healing and did she want to come in for some sessions with me. She wrote back a few days later saying that while she appreciated me wishing to heal the relationship she was not ready for that but to let my therapist know that at some point she may be. She signed off with "Best of luck in all your future endevors".

The problem is that I go back to work in September (I'm a teacher with a very demanding job). I know I'm not going to have the psychic energy to deal with therapy with her if she decides at any point during the school year that she is ready. I don't want to be pushy and write her back and tell her this but at the same time I want to start the healing process before I go back to work. Any advice?