We talk about foods being "unhealthy" for us, so why not behaviors? Maybe it's a matter of opinion whether something is healthy or not, but I think everyone basically knows what is healthy vs. unhealthy.

"Transference" is a technical word and has a definition. I don't see anything wrong with it. I think "resolving the transference" should be used when the transference becomes a problem.

I also hate the word "termination" for ending therapy. It sounds like dying. "Quitting" doesn't sound right either. I like simply "ending therapy."

Some expressions I didn't like my T using, and I'm the first to say that she really shouldn't talk like this: She would say "borderlines" act this way or that way. She should say "those with BPD" (though I agree that takes 3 words instead of 1).

I also don't like the way she tells me "my 11:30 is here". She recently told me that when we were talking on the phone. I guess I'm a 1:30 or whatever I used to be! I know she doesn't think of clients as times, and it's a shorthand way of talking that she probably doesn't realize affects anyone, but "my next client is here" would be much better. Or "someone is waiting to see me." Sometimes she did say it that way, but I've heard the other way more often.