Hi seeker,

Oh, how painful and I feel for you very much, especially about overcoming your fear of intimacy only to be hurt.

About the guy - a big lesson I have learned over the years is that intellectual ability is not related to wisdom and sensitivity, one does not follow the other. This guy sounds bright in one way and really dumb in another. He sounds like a 'cold fish' to me.

There are genuinely warm and caring people in the world, although IMHO they are not so easy to find when you need one!

A thought about rejection. In my quite long experience, I have noticed that when I have been rejected, it is by someone who is not really very nice. I often hear that they have done the same elsewhere. The really nice people that I know don't go in for rejection, as it would be painful to them to have to do it to someone, if you follow my thinking.

This is only a generalisation of course, but I think there is some truth in it. It's like the difference between employers who 'hire and fire' and those who look after their staff. I know which kind of boss I would choose!

Good thoughts, Myzen