You know I have an estranged relationship with my sister also. We haven't talked in almost 2 years. I love her, and she has tried to make a relationship with me since then, and I just won't allow it at this time. We have issues from our childhood that she resents me for, which really was my parents fault for how she feels. I have tried on many occasions to find out what the problem is with her animosity towards me, and she just will not tell me. Our mother passed when I was 15, and she was 17. Our father passed when I was 27 and she was 29. There is just her and I. When our parents passed she did some pretty mean and nasty things to me. Let me just say that when there is some money involved it will ruin a relationship. She also tries to make me feel like I'm the worst piece of crap about myself, but I don't feel that way about myself. I'm just at a point in my life now that I'm not going to be around her if she can't show me some kind of respect. She has even tried to have her husband preach to me about certain things I do in my life. Which I'm not out there breaking the law or anything, and I do take care of myself. I'm a 35 year old woman, and sometimes she tries to treat me like a child. Just doesn't add up to me. I will say this at least you have opened up to your sister. The therapy is a good idea, maybe in the near future I will suggest this to my sister. It sounds like your sister is blaming the relationship problems all on you. That's where the therapy will really help with her also. She needs to understand that it's just not you, and that she has her part in it also. I also wouldn't reach out to her anymore. You did your part. It's in her ball court now. I would be there when she's ready, and that's all that I would do for right now. You also shouldn't be so hard on yourself. You seem like a good person to me especially since you have been teaching kids for 16 years. That says something about you, so I know that your not that bad. Anyways sorry to ramble on, and I do help this helps you. Take Care