jerrymichelle: What would you do if it was you?

I assume you're asking me? I'm much like you. My personal preference is for monogamy and my partner knows as much. But if other grown adults wish to make different arrangements between themselves and other grown adults, and all those grown adults willingly and freely consent to those arrangements without any coercion, emotional extortion or other forms of imposed power and control... I think that's their business even though I would not choose the same for myself.