I don't like "transference" either because some people use it with a much broader definition than I do--to describe any situation where the client and therapist are very close and connected. That is how I am with my therapist, but it is not transference. Our relationship is in the here and now and is not my past relationship with a parent that I am transferring onto him. I have genuine feelings for HIM, TODAY. We have known each other so long and shared many intimate moments. We are close in our own right. I think clients and therapists sometimes use "transference" to push each other away, rather than admit they are genuinely close. I can understand that clients might find this scary and have a hard time tolerating the strong feeling, but therapists should know better! And be able to handle it better!

I have experienced transference with my T a few specific times. It was negative transference (like something he did reminded me of my XH.) I have been able to spot it right away and so not get caught up in the misdirected emotion.

My T has only used the word "transference" once, and it was not in relation to us, but more in passing, and he used it in verbal quote marks. My T, in general, doesn't use a lot of psych words or terms. He is also very straightforward and doesn't turn my questions back onto me, evading my question by asking me one himself. He did this just once that I can remember, and as he did it, he prefaced that behavior with an apology, saying something like, "I'm not trying to avoid your question but I wanted to ask you one first before I answer..." I love how he did that! I detest game playing, and he knows it.

Bether, I agree with you that the phrase "resolving transference" is especially yucky. I don't know what it means to "resolve". Perhaps, for those who are transferring feelings from parents or lovers onto their Ts, it means having genuine feelings for the T himself rather than for someone else.

I agree "unhealthy" is not a great term, but I feel I have healthy attachment with my T, and when I first started out, it was kind of obsessive and not as healthy, so by contrast I called it "unhealthy". I'm not sure what is a better contrasting term to use.

I also don't like "termination of therapy". I prefer "ending therapy."

I totally agree!!! It always has really bothered me to see this. Have you heard of "person first" language? That is where you don't refer to the person as a condition or a disease, but as a person having a certain condition. We are so much more than any one disorder.
http://www.csun.edu/~ffrc/person1st.html

Yuck!!! rainbow, did you ever tell her how that made you feel?

Skeksi, my PNP has told me that I have ADHD-like symptoms as opposed to ADHD. I respond well to that.

The title of your thread is "words/sayings used in therapy." The words you have mentioned are all negative things that you don't like. Do you like any words or phrases from therapy?