I hate the word "fantasy". How did I forget that one?

I guess, to me, a lot of these words sound judgmental and negative. But that is part of being open and exposed like one is in the therapy room, I suppose. Everything you're discussing is so personal.

You do have a point about resistance and that was definitely there for me with "transference", but I also figured out why I was resisting it. Still don't like it much...

Originally Posted by rainbow8

We talk about foods being "unhealthy" for us, so why not behaviors? Maybe it's a matter of opinion whether something is healthy or not, but I think everyone basically knows what is healthy vs. unhealthy.

I think with foods, the answer is pretty much black and white and less subjective. I don't think I would have a problem with labeling the behaviors. I might have a problem with labeling the attachment, though. That then becomes much more personal and of course I would want to defend it...

I used to shudder every time my T used the word "molest", but that was a different kind of thing because it fit. I needed to hear it because I'd been in denial about what had actually happened.

I've always thought of my relationship with my T in the here and now. The word "love" sounds soft on the ears and has a positive connotation. "Transference" sounds cold and yucky and clinical. Of course, that's just my personal opinion. T did tell me it was "just a word". I wrote something for T a few weeks ago that expressed why I was fighting the word transference. Would it be okay to share something so personal on here?

I've triggered myself, lol. I'm not afraid of it, though. I wanted to know why words trigger me.

As far as positive words used in therapy, my T was very good at putting things gently. I'd have to think on specifics.