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You both have to respect each other's feelings. That's how healing will start. My daughter has not spoken to me in years. I am ready and waiting for her if it ever happens. Likewise my mother keeps trying to have a closer relationship with me than I am comfortable with. I can't force my feelings and I can't accept the disrespect I feel from her. It's unfortunate we are all not in the same forgiving place at the same time but that is just reality.
You are ready NOW to try and heal your relationship with your sister. If you are sincere I think you will find that you remain ready whenever she is. If she becomes ready and is sincere, she will understand and respect your feelings if you aren't able to jump into therapy right at that moment.
Try taking this problem one day at a time. Don't project how you will or won't be feeling in the future. How can you know? Just keep your arms and mind open, when/if she comes to you, just be honest about where you are at, at that time. Maybe she won't be ready until next summer, then that will work out well for both of you, right?
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