Hi {{{{{{{{{{{{{Jac}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

I know how you feel and understand why you don't want to relive them. They are painful and hurt. It is good to express yourself though...keeping them in makes it harder on you.

My therapist literally walked me through when I was raped. I was terrified and sooo angry at him for doing that. I thought..how can this help me? All it does is bring up the mess all over again. You know what though? It helped...it really did. Mind you it never went away but it helped having someone tell you...it is not your fault. Nothing you did was wrong....those words meant more to me than I realized and helped with healing.

As for you ex....oh hun....I am going through this with my therapist now too. I was in a mentally and physically abusive marriage with my ex. I lived through hell and am still here. It hurts though when I will be sitting down on the floor playing with my kids and then boom....something will pop in my head like it just happened.

I know I have to work on it too...we are all with you and know that you are not alone.


Heather

"The Pessimist complains about the wind, the Optimist expects it to change and the REALIST adjusts his sails." ~~~author unknown