But this fight is about the kids - custody and placement. It's about his kid's needs coming before his wants. It's about him being accountable for a change. It's about having things in writing instead of a verbal agreement that can be "forgotten" when it's no longer in his best interests.

I can't wrap my head around this. He'll say my finances aren't his concern and asking for child support is ridiculous, and then points out all of his income and expenses to me. Everything is a double standard.

I don't want to lose my kids. I don't want them in the middle any more. But I don't want to back into the corner any more. I don't want to be on the defensive and always have to explain myself while nodding my head and agreeing with everything he says.

I want to figure out a way to reconcile things without me giving in to all of his demands, without him thinking he won, again.